Steersman wrote:
Don’t see that she is doing any “femsplainingâ€; she did say “that is up to them and no one elseâ€. Although I can see providing a lot more information to both sexes as to what is really entailed even if that might cause a precipitous decline in the birth rate. Sort of like giving young teenage women some "robot" babies to take care of for a month or two ....
The key part is where she said:
peddling these ideas to young men, who have not even had enough experience to make an educated and informed decision to go MGTOW off the bat
Leaving it up to experience means (to me anyway) is to let them find out the hard way. Do not tell them anything. I fail to see how a young man can make an educated and informed decision without being informed and educated in the first place.
If I had known about what are now common manosphere tropes I am reasonably certain I would have seen all the red flags and never married my ex-wife because I would have been educated and informed. Actually this could be a rationalization, hindsight being 20/20 and all that.
Mind though, I have met young men who do seem to know what it is all about. One example is a 30 yr old gardner who has two kids with the same woman and has never lived with her. He explained to me that he owns his own house and that living together with her, never mind getting married is out of the question.
Badger3k wrote:Jack wrote:Sulaco wrote:I like the idea I heard in some fiction, and possibly some ancient societies (vague memory of some - maybe Roman? IDK) - a sort of contract marriage that lasts for a year (or other time period). Let anyone do it, as long as they can legally consent. No penalties once the contract is over.
I think that is currently practiced in Iran so young people can date/fuck. Forgot where I read it, so grain of salt and all that.
It is also becoming more common in Muslim communities in the UK.
Yeah - that's a bit different in intent, but similar in practice. They do it to get around the "no sex without marriage" bit. They get married for a short time, get their rocks off, then get divorced. It's revealing at how little they think of their god, that they think that bit of trickery would fool him (that assumes they are actual believers and not just following the cultural norms). But, Orthodox Jews and other extremists in most religions do similar things.
Kinda like saying you're a feminist, while using sexist language and having sick fantasies about students dressed as half-fish (ewww....that's a nasty thought - I think I through up in my mouth a lot)!
A couple of notes about mut‘ah (temporary marriage and more properly know as Nikah mut‘ah) it is generally practised more commonly among Shia Muslims rather than Sunni Muslims. With the Sunni only the Hanafi school of jurisprudence allows it and it entirely legal and sanctioned under their laws.
Even so it is not regarded as "respectable" and there is a certain stigma attached to it.
A form of it may be allowed so that a young couple can "date" but in those cases where it is negotiated formally between two familys
it does not include sex especially if the girl is a virgin, and indeed under those circumstances it is absolutely forbidden. It does allow the couple to spend time together which would otherwise be completely prohibited.
What the more secular Muslims do is an entirely different kettle of fish.