zenbabe wrote:
The problem with kids from 13-18 (particularly on the younger end of that range) is that they're so fresh into some sort of adulthood. Their bodies might be all grown up, but their brains sure as hell aren't, for males I think the frontal cortex isn't finished wiring itself up until early 20s?
If I recall correctly for males a bit later than that. For females a whole lot earlier (can not be arsed to look it up ATM). Which is why generally it is recognized that girls tend to mature emotionally earlier.
The downside to that for some people, is older male/younger female couplings tend to work better from a maturity point of view (we are talking about a range people it would be silly to look at this in absolutist terms).
zenbabe wrote:
They should get the time to ease into real adulthood, their brains, their psychologies, need time to catch up to their bodies. A 13 year old boy or girl might be sexually mature physically, but that doesn't give a full blown adult (not a woman, nor a man) in their 20s, 30s, etc the right take advantage of that and screw up their minds, which are still fairly childlike.
Relatively speaking of course.
On a related note, and not very pleasant to contemplate, is that you will find some very competent female sexual predators as young as age 13. The boys who are just as competent tend to be at least three years older in my experience. Both may not be as mature, but adults can just as easily fall prey to them. Fortunately this is pretty uncommon in my experience.
The bottom line for those who have children, is you would be advised to
pay very close attention to them during puberty.
If you can recall your circle of acquaintances back when you were at that age, I suspect you can come up with examples of your own.