Spot on. Someyimes it happens the other way too. You meet a lass and don't find her attractive one bit. Get to know her, realise she's cool and then start thinking she's hot. It happened to me before anyway.welch wrote:
My son asked me about this not long ago, because he saw a logic issue with "you should like people for their minds" namely "you can't fucking see a mind". What I told him:
The idea that letting physical attraction be a factor in your intimate relationships is a bad thing is astoundingly stupid.Kiddo, here's the deal: yes, you should absolutely care as much about what's inside than out. But, as you point out, you can't see that. What you're stuck with, that makes you want to start talking to them is well, superficial. most of the time, you think they are physically attractive, and that motivates you to talk to them. if you're in earshot, you may be able to hear them talking at the same time, and so get more insight, but most of the time, what gets you to walk across the room is the outer shell. If that's not something you find interesting, you're not going to bother in most cases.
This isn't good or bad, it just is. There are as many things people find "attractive" as there are people, and your qualifications are going to be unique to you, even if they're similar to someone else's. The trick is, don't JUST be about the shell. There are a lot of awesome women out there you'll never have sex with, you may not even find them attractive that way. They're just as awesome regardless of their "stick it in" rating. But, when it comes down to it, if you're thinking of the sexin', well, there does have to some physical component for both sides. It's just how it works. There's no shame in only wanting to have sex with people you find sexually attractive, just don't be a dick about it.
Another awesome video BTW. Wooly has the flu and she still delivers epic pwnage. That lass has an acid tongue.
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