John Brown wrote:A small point of disagreement, if I may.
I addressed this in one of my videos sometime back. When I was in the Army, there was always one implicit, though unbreakable rule.
Never leave a person behind.
The circumstances didn't matter. Whether it be the battlefield or going out on Friday night getting sloshed, you looked out for your friends and never left them behind.
If at some point they meet up with someone and want to split away from the group, a couple things come into play. The group assesses if you're too far gone to make that decision by yourself. If you are, then you aren't leaving. I don't care if a fist fight erupts because of it. You're not leaving.
If you are able to make that decision by yourself, then somebody from the group makes sure that all relevant information is obtained. Where does this person live? What is his/her phone number? When do you plan on being back? How will you get back? etc, etc...
Leaving a person behind to fend for themselves was a taboo one simply did not break. If you did, be prepared to be a pariah.
Now, I understand that casual social groups aren't like the bonds you have in the military, but if more people looked at it that way, then there would be much less of this going on.
Regardless of gender, you shouldn't be out by yourself, drinking yourself silly in unfamiliar places. And, you also shouldn't be doing said activities with "friends" you can't trust.
Never leave a person behind.
John Brown wrote:you shouldn't be out
by yourself, drinking yourself silly in unfamiliar places.
first, going out drinking with friends, and letting one of those friends make an adult decision to hook up with with someone, is not like leaving someone behind in the military sense.
second, I take responsibility for my actions, I don't need or want a babysitter, because I don't get drunk, especially in a public place.
I don't have a problem with a situation where you are meeting someone alone for the first time, and give a friend the name of the person you are meeting, the address, and any other pertinent information, and tell them that if you don't call by a certain time, something is wrong.
but for fuck's sake stay sober, or stay in public.
third, I used to tend bar, for many
years, in all different types of places. I've seen it all. I've also had to babysit numerous times.
It is a bloody nightmare, arguing with someone when they are drunk, or on drugs about what is in their best interest, or dealing with them being emotional, or trying to stop them from instigating a fight with someone, or trying to calm them down and talk them out of their paranoia or jealousy, or standing outside the door to the toilet making sure they don't pass out, or choke on their own vomit.
The only people who have an excuse for getting so drunk, they are ready to do things they would never do sober, are college age or younger, and in that case you better
watch your friend's back, because it will probably be you
who needs a nanny the next evening.
If you are an adult, and want to behave like a college kid in a bar, Hire a fucking chaperone.
Why should an adult have to deal with a petulant, spoiled child when they are there to enjoy themselves? It is incredibly narcissistic, self-absorbed, and childish to drink until you cannot be trusted to be in control of your decisions, because your friends will have your back.
and it's always the same people
who need babysitting,
and they never learn, and they don't give a fuck because someone always rescues them.
I choose my friends wisely. We don't need mothering, and we don't need to be rescued from self-inflicted neurosis.