Carrier's story about Amy is also changing. He now claims that while Amy's husband had passed out another man touched Amy, who seemed OK with it, and he simply jokes that he wished that he was that man. Also everybody was slightly drunk, talking about sex and Carrier just mentioned in passing that he had a vasectomy and so he had "better stamina during sex" .
He also says that it was Amy who brought up the subject of open marriage and that her husband was against it.
Carrier said that he only expressed interest in Amy and promised to be around if she got divorced; Amy, according to Carrier, smiled and said that she would consider it.
IF this is true (and that's a big IF) then it's clearly not sexual harassment, and hardly even unprofessional. The context seems relaxed, the remarks are innocuous enough and Amy wasn't exactly expressing some discomfort at Carrier's words. Also he apparently never touched her.
He also says that apparently he assumed that the complaint against him in the SSA was about another event, when misjudged a conversation for flirtation, awkwardly said that he''d have liked to make a pass at her, and immediately apologized when the woman expressed obvious discomfort.
He also apparently asked out Heina Dadhabhoy over an email and backed off when she rejected him.
Again, IF all of this is true I don't think that Carrier is a sexual harasser, and IF all of this is true and he broke some SSA rules then those rules are extremely strict.
Of course it's perfectly possible that Carrier might be lying. The Heina emails seem to show that he was pestering her before she told him to fuck off over his "loveletter" so it's perfectly possible that he might have similarly pestered Amy and then lied or (more worryingly) self-servingly re-interpreted his behavior in a better light.
By way those letters to Heina are the funniest shit ever:
Tricky Dicky Carrier wrote:Competence is erotic. And sharing sexual experiences with incredible women like you is what I want out of life. It only adds that you're pretty. Your eyes just melt me. Lots I'd want to kiss on you. But I don't have your permission to go there here, so I'll just leave it at that.
The same world-renowned author as above wrote:You radiate agency. And that's like a brilliant, warm light you want to embrace and experience passionately. I can go on admiring you from afar, as a writer and a colleague and valuable asset to our movement, and I can go on spending excellent time together with you as a friend when we happen to be around each other. I won't be badly dejected by a no.But if there is any chance you want me, I'm hoping to know.
What a poet and a charmer. :lol: Too bad Heina didn't appreciate being called as a third wheel in a possible threesome. :lol: